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Catherine Gildiner

Best-selling Author and Psychologist

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Book Club: “After the Falls” Discussion Questions

January 16, 2015 By Catherine Gildiner

Discussion Questions

1. At certain points in the memoir (p. 30, 166), Cathy’s childhood confidante, Roy, appears to her to offer guidance and a sympathetic ear. How do you interpret these moments—as a literary device or as a spiritual visitation?

2. Cathy McClure and her father, Jim, are dedicated to the task of protecting her mother from any emotional pain she could encounter from the outside world to the point that Cathy is expected to take on a much more adult role in the family than is normal for a teenager. This dynamic is explained at the end of the book (p. 333) with a shocking revelation about Cathy’s parents’ past. Were you surprised by this revelation? How had you explained the family dynamic and the mother’s behavior to yourself before you finished the book?

3. The “Donny Donnybrook” is Catherine Gildiner’s flippant way of referring to a traumatic incident in her early adolescence, when her father sharply criticizes her for flirting (p. 24). How do you think this incident colored the relationship between father and daughter? Do you think it influenced young Cathy’s decisions in the coming years, in ways she as a memoirist doesn’t specifically mention?

4. As parents, Jim and Janet McClure take a rather unusual approach—especially for the time—to raising their headstrong daughter. While Janet is blasé and undemanding, Jim does try to exert some control over Cathy, especially as she becomes a young woman. Which parent do you relate to more? Why?

5. After the Falls recounts life in a time that has become characterized by movies like Forrest Gump and American Graffiti, as well as TV shows like Mad Men and The Wonder Years. How does Gildiner’s portrayal of what it was like to grow up at that time compare to the pop–culture image? How does it compare to your own impressions or experience of the era?

6. Cathy’s teenage rebellion takes her on what she sees as a high road—vandalizing property in the name of civil rights—and a low one—stealing her father’s car to impress the popular crowd. Which of her antics surprised you the most? What did you get up to as a teen that embarrasses you as you think back?

7. On page 61 Gildiner writes, “Somehow, in some compartment of my brain, I equated witnessing these boys abusing Veronica with my own shame. I, too, had humiliated myself, and my father had had to witness it.” How do you interpret this statement? Do you see a connection between Veronica and Cathy (at the time of the “Donny Donnybrook”)?

8. Another surprise that fate had in store for young Cathy McClure was the truth about her first love—the dashing, sensitive poet Laurie Coal. Did you think this relationship was too good to be true? Or were you surprised by how it ended? What would you have done in Cathy’s place?

9. While dating Laurie, and fighting against racial prejudice, Cathy makes a few assumptions about her roommate, Baby, which turn out to be incorrect (p. 262). What do Cathy’s assumptions regarding Baby reveal about her own prejudices? Do you think her assumptions about Baby are comparable to the racial prejudice she was fighting?

10. Jim McClure’s illness robbed him of much of his identity and his relationship with his family. Do you agree with Cathy’s decisions in the years that followed: trying to explain his illness to him despite his memory loss, taking his car keys from him, and ultimately allowing him to go off life support? What about his wife Janet—how do you view her behavior in the face of Jim’s illness?

Filed Under: After the Falls, Book Clubs

Book Talk: “After the Falls” Author Interview

January 16, 2015 By Catherine Gildiner

Author Interview

Q. Do you think your father’s illness brought you and your mother closer together, or did it actually allow you to separate yourself from your family?

My mother and I were always close. I think that my father’s illness made us even closer because we had a shared problem that we had to solve together. I took it over initially and at the end of his life, but she filled in for years in between. We both had to make sacrifices together. We often used black humor to get us through the rough parts. When one of us was at a low, the other would crack a macabre joke so we could go on. I had to deal with my father’s anger, which she found too hard to bear. She, however, sold her beloved collection of Niagara Falls lithographs in order to make the money for me to get away to college and then England. We both did what we could to help the other.

In answer to your question, which I noticed I haven’t answered, I don’t think my father’s illness per se helped me separate from my family, but his illness put me on the fast track to adulthood. There is no room for adolescent rebellion when the family is in the midst of trauma.

Q. You vividly describe how shame “becomes part of you” (p. 26). You say that “for the rest of your life . . . the forked tongue of shame is there.” Do you still feel the residual shame or after effects of the “Donny Donnybrook” to this day?

I had misbehaved in my childhood on many occasions and my father had called me to task. He had always used his intellectual faculties to correct me while remaining dispassionate. However, on the Donnybrook occasion he used full throttle rage. If a parent has never once been angry with you in your whole life, when he finally blows up—you listen.

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Filed Under: After the Falls, Book Clubs, My Book Talks

Book Talk: “After the Falls” Author Interview #2

January 15, 2015 By Catherine Gildiner

Author Interview

1.) How does a clinical psychologist suddenly become a bestselling author? Tell us about this metamorphosis.

I was a psychologist in private practice for 25 years until one day when I was at a dinner party, someone said that they were saddened that their 16-year-old daughter was getting a job for the summer and would have to face the work world. I sort of ‘sounded off’, saying that I’d worked since I was four years old and there was nothing wrong with working at sixteen! Then I regaled people about working with the black delivery car driver named Roy and how I worked delivering narcotics around the Niagara Frontier for my father’s drug store. Someone at the party suggested I write up an incident from my childhood years with Roy. I wrote it as a short piece and sent it to a publisher. I went alphabetically through the phonebook under publishers and sent it out on a Friday. On the following Monday I got an advance check couriered to me with a yellow post on it that said ‘Finish it.’ –so I did. Since I didn’t want to give back the check, a writer was born.

2.) Do you intend on continuing your private practice or do you write full time now? 

I write full time.

3.) Do you feel that your professional life as a psychologist has helped you in any way become a better writer? 

It has helped me enormously. I feel that I understand a lot more about human nature than I would have otherwise. Also in terms of memoir writing– it has freed me up to write ‘the truth’ (whatever that is) about myself. I have seen thousands of patients. I know that what people show the world is only the tip of the psychological iceberg. I know that no matter how strange my thoughts felt to me, they were no weirder than I heard daily in my office. One thing I learned while in private practice: we are all very much alike–especially in what our basic wants and needs are. The differences in most human natures are superficial.

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Filed Under: After the Falls, Book Clubs, My Book Talks

Book Talk: “Seduction” Author Interview

January 14, 2015 By Catherine Gildiner

Author Interview

Can you tell us how you became a writer?
I was a psychologist in private practice for twenty-five years. For fun, I once wrote an unsolicited column for Facts and Arguments in The Globe and Mail and just faxed it in one day. To my surprise it was published. An editor at Chatelaine magazine happened to read the column and invited me to be their psychological advice columnist. That was the birth of my journalism career.

My creative writing career was equally serendipitous. I’m a bit of an Irish storyteller, so once, at a party, I told a childhood tale about how I’d worked full time from the age of four delivering drugs with a black delivery car driver, and how we’d been trapped in the snow overnight. Someone at the party told me to write the story and send it to a publisher. So I quickly wrote up the tale and then mailed it in on a Friday. On the following Monday I received an advance cheque in the mail with a yellow Post-it attached that said “finish it.” Not wanting to give back the cheque, I finished the book. That is how my childhood memoir, Too Close to the Falls, was hatched. It was on the bestsellers list for seventy-two weeks, so that helped me to decide I must be a writer.

What inspired you to write this particular book? Is there a story about the writing of this novel that begs to be told?
Twenty-five years ago I wrote a Ph.D. thesis titled Darwin’s Influence on Freud. Over the many years I spent in the library reading their letters and works, I got to know Darwin and Freud fairly well. I noticed personal quirks and inconsistencies that I believed were subtly reflected in their theories. My mind was full of the sort of details you can put in a novel but never in a Ph.D. thesis.

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Filed Under: Book Clubs, My Book Talks, Seduction - A Novel

Book Clubs: “Seduction” Discussion Questions

January 14, 2015 By Catherine Gildiner

Discussion Questions

1. Discuss Kate’s role as the narrator of this story. What effect does her perspective have on your reading? How much do you trust her to be true to the facts?

2. Was Kate correct to suspect Dr. Gardonne’s motives right from the start? Or does “paranoia” play a part here? And if so, is there a sense that paranoia helped her solve the case? Consider also the role of Bozo, who was labelled a “paranoid” by Konzak.

3. In what ways is Seduction a conventional detective story? What elements distinguish it from the genre?

4. Kate and Jackie travel far and wide — Vienna, Toronto, London, New York, the Isle of Wight — during their search. Discuss how Gildiner brings these places to life for readers, through Kate’s eyes and her memories.

5. In her author’s note at the start of the novel, Gildiner states that she “freely altered” historical information about the lives of Sigmund Freud, Anna Freud and Charles Darwin for the sake of her fictional storyline. Discuss the responsibility, if any, novelists have to the facts of history.

6. Discuss Kate’s attitude towards the murder of her husband. Is she dispassionate? How may her years behind bars have affected her perceptions? What do you think really happened that day?

7. In the first chapter, Kate tells us of Freud’s belief that everyone is born with two drives, sex and aggression, and that what interested him was what happened when these drives are curtailed — for instance, when we use defences like repression, denial, intellectualization and sublimation. How does this theory play out in the events and characters of Seduction?

8. Both Kate and Jackie have come up with ways to deal with their feelings of guilt and shame — Kate analyzes her emotional reactions and throws herself into her studies; Jackie lives in the moment and refuses to feel shame for the past. How healthy do you think they are, emotionally and psychologically? Consider both characters in terms of how prison has affected or shaped them.

9. Do you think that the truths uncovered about Freud and Darwin would have struck the blow to psychoanalysis that Gardonne and the rest of the industry feared?

10. Why does Kate feel such a bond with Anna Freud? In what ways are they similar, or different? Think particularly of their childhoods and their relationships.

11. Discuss the quote from Freud that opens this novel. Do you think “every normal person” has some psychotic element to his or her psyche? What about the characters in this book?

12. How do the letters, diary excerpts, notes, papers and other documents included in the text add depth to Seduction? Did you ever find yourself forgetting that you were reading fiction?

13. In what ways is Kate affected by her visits to the house that Bozo, Shawna, The Wizard and Edgar live in? What do these characters and their lifestyle represent in the novel? And what do you make of The Wizard’s disappearance?

14. In chapter 4, Kate and Jackie discuss Freud’s seduction theory and how it morphed into the Oedipus complex, as they try to get to the root of Konzak’s plans. Discuss these theories and their role in this novel, both in past events and in the current story. For instance, what kind of relationships do Kate, Jackie, Dr. Gardonne and Anna Freud have with their parents?

15. Discuss Seduction and its characters (such as Jackie, Kate, Dr. Von Enchanhauer, The Wizard) in terms of the Darwinian statement “Only the fittest survive.”

16. What do you think of the relationship between Kate and Jackie? What does the future hold for them? Is romance likely?

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Book Clubs: “Too Close to the Falls” Discussion Questions

January 13, 2015 By Catherine Gildiner

Discussion Questions

1. Discuss what makes a good memoir. How does Too Close to the Falls incorporate these qualities?

2. How did you feel about Catherine’s childhood “career”? Did it place her in situations that were inappropriate for a child of her age? Elaborate. How do you think being exposed to these realities affected her?

3. If Roy were to describe young Catherine McClure, what do you think he would say? What about Mother Agnes? Father Rodwick?

4. Early on in the book, the reader understands that Catherine feels she is a misfit. How much of that can be attributed to her natural character? Should her parents have made more of an attempt to force Catherine to conform? More importantly, is it wrong for a child to feel “different” from everyone else? Can it build character?

5. Catherine struggles throughout Too Close to the Falls with double standards and issues of moral hypocrisy. In which scenarios did you find these themes especially pronounced?

6. Did Catherine experience a loss of innocence? If so, when? Do you remember a particular moment in your life that contributed to a “loss of innocence”? Is that moment an unavoidable part of growing older?

7. Is the spirit of rebellion evident in Catherine’s character simply innate in certain individuals, or does growing up among particularly restrictive institutions (a strict Catholic school, a small conservative town, for instance) incite rebellion where there may otherwise have been none? Are there any people or institutions that you rebelled against as a teenager, but later embraced?

8. Consider the women Catherine comes into contact with: her mother, Miranda, Marie Sweeny, Marilyn Monroe, Warty, and Mother Agnes. What did she learn from each of them?

9. How did you react to the last scene in the book, the evening that Catherine spent with Father Rodwick? Was is surprising that Catherine—the adult looking back—seemed not to be judging the priest’s actions? Do you think that the time they spent together was inappropriate? Might she have drawn something positive from that night?

10. “There is always one moment in childhood when the door opens and lets the future in.”—Graham Greene, The Power and the Glory. If you could choose that significant moment in Too Close to the Falls, what would it be? What about in your own life?

Filed Under: Book Clubs, Too Close to the Falls

Book Talk: “Too Close to the Falls” Author Interview

January 13, 2015 By Catherine Gildiner

Author Interview

1. At what age, or stage of life, did you decide that you wanted to write a memoir, and what triggered the actual writing? How long did it take to write the book?

I was a psychologist for 25 years and running out of empathy, and then once I was at a party and someone said they had worked at their father’s store. I told a few stories about working in my dad’s store and someone at the party said I should write it up so I did–just one story about Roy. I sent it in to the first name on the Canadian publishers list–ECW on a Friday–and then Monday I got an advance for a book and the enclosed note said ‘Finish it’. Since I didn’t want to give the money back, I finished it.

2. Your memory of details from a very young age is amazing–I’m envious!–right down to the colour of chalk your teacher used on the blackboard. Did you keep a journal during childhood, or was all of Too Close to the Falls in your memory bank? Did you have to work at some of the memories to get them to reveal themselves fully?

I never kept a diary. I was too busy. When I wrote the first draft I didn’t have any of the fine details–like the chalk colour but human memory is organized according to associations–so with each draft I would remember a few more details–one memory would jog another. If you write a skeletal draft it will expand each day if you let the picture expand.

3. Did you ever hesitate when deciding how truthful to be in describing real people? Some of your portraits, particularly of more minor characters, are not particularly flattering. As a reader I appreciated them because they seemed very honest, but I know this is always a tricky area for memoir writers.

I was really naïve about that. I had a fantasy that as long as you wrote what was ‘true,’ everything was fine. Of course that theory leaves much to be desired. I learned that when I went back to read the memoir to a few hundred people in Lewiston. Anthony McDougall showed up and had a few things to say. Also some of the town thought they had been kinder to Warty than I portrayed. On the whole, I was surprised at how accepting they were of most of my descriptions. The descriptions of people didn’t send anyone into orbit – but the anti-Catholic feeling made some people mad. But hey, you never make everyone happy. One of the upsides of having no living relatives is there is no one close to me to disagree.

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Filed Under: Book Clubs, My Book Talks, Too Close to the Falls

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"Gildiner depicts herself as a hard-headed, risk-taking young woman who spoke her mind and fully embraced life. For readers, following that life is an irresistible roller-coaster ride full of humor, wise insights, and poignant reflections."
- Publishers Weekly

"...much of Gildiner’s gift as a storyteller is her ability to imbue anecdotes with hefty doses of humour."
- Quill and Quire

"This is the third memoir I’ve read by Catherine Gildiner and I hope it won’t be the last. Although in the preface she says that this is the final book, I’ll continue to hope she changes her mind."
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I've been in a writing frenzy of late. I have finally submitted my book about psychological heroes to my agent. It used to be named STILL STANDING, but that has changed to GOOD MORNING, MONSTER, (how one client's mother greeted her every morning.) I've changed the book to include my history as a psychologist and what I learned over the years.

Now I am working on another book about the Underground Railroad yet untitled. I grew up in Lewiston, New York which was the last stop on the underground railroad as it is on the border of Canada. I lived around the houses that had 3 fake basements where the slaves were hidden and my relatives were part of the underground railroad. All this local history fired my imagination as a child and I am writing like a wild woman now. Hope it works.
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I'm pretty excited about the new book I'm writing. Just finished the 2nd draft. It is tentatively entitled STILL STANDING: PSYCHOLOGICAL PROFILES IN HEROISM. I was a psychologist for 25 years before I was a writer. I am writing about patients I've had over the years who have been abused in one way or another but maintained their sanity. The book came about because I was fed up with how our society defines heroism. Heroes get a medal for short bursts of testosterone. They are measured in short term. I think it should be measured over time. What about patients who have mostly been prisoners of war in homes that have brainwashed and tortured them. They were tiny children who had to fight every day of their lives in cruel homes just to maintain their sanity. These people were brave for decades till they could get out. Then they had to learn how to live in the world. The book is a tribute to the patients I had in therapy who made it. ...

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Ok so who is going to be in Florida in December or who do you know who will be there? I am going to be speaking at The bookstore, BOOKS AND BOOKS in Coral Gables. So whoever lives in Miami come on out on December 8th. Also I am in Palm Beach at the Society for the Four Arts on December 10th. See below. Both events are free! ...

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